Welcome to the Bear Marriage Podcast, I'm Sheila Ray Gregoer from Bear Marriage.com and I am so glad that you have joined me that you are part of this big movement to help the Evangelical Church move towards healthy, evidence-based biblical advice for your sex life and your marriage.

And we are changing the conversation and that is having ripple effects even beyond the Evangelical church into our culture at large.

Together we can do this and I'm so encouraged that you've joined us on this journey.

We have some exciting things on this podcast. I have an amazing interview with a wonderful author but before we get

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On the blog this month, we are talking about how to dig out of the pit that sometimes we dig for ourselves when our

sexual lives get so complicated and I have a special guest who has a really

important message in his book unwanted that can help us with that. So here is J Stringer.

Well this is an interview I have been so excited about and so looking forward to. I have J Stringer on with me. He is a licensed psychotherapist, trained in Seattle, was there at the founding of the Dan Alender Center, and now is the author of an

incredible book unwanted and Jay thank you so much for being here. Sheila I am so grateful to be on your show.

This is such an honor for me as well so thank you for just the privilege of this invitation.

Yeah, Jay and I connected about a month ago we had a great long conversation about how our work intertwines and overlaps and just we have such similar hearts in that like let's do the research let's figure out what's really going on and let's get to the bottom of it as opposed to just throwing theology and everything.

Yes, yeah, we need to change this conversation dramatically so.

So yeah, I'm so grateful to be kind of a co-labor with you and having a much different conversation than any of us grew up with or inherited.

So tell us the premise of unwanted, if you could put it in an elevator pitch. Okay, so the premise of unwanted is that sexual problems are a road map to healing.

They are not a life sentence to sexual shame or sexual addiction.

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