Hey guys, my name is John Kim. I'm a licensed therapist and life coach putting

self betterment into a shot class because let's face it who's got that much time

these days. I come unpolished, unrehearsed, on purpose. If you're

looking for more of a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place.

Most of us have made most of our lives about other people, correct? Maybe you're a parent, maybe you had to grow up fast and how to take care of your siblings or even

your parents. Maybe you're in the world that I'm in where you are giving therapy, listening

to other people's problems, maybe you're a nurse, maybe you're a teacher,

maybe you're a police officer, I don't know, but most of us have not made it about us. There is guilt and shame and weirdness and

discomfort, probably even just saying that you're going to make it about you, right? And

you may feel that it's selfish, but the truth is it's really important

to make it about you. So let's first define what that looks like because making it about you doesn't mean that you

are doing selfish things, right?

It doesn't mean that you are not taking care of other people.

It doesn't mean that you don't have

concern for other people. Doesn't mean that you're not kind to other people.

That's not what making it about you is, right? That's not what it means. So for me, making it about me would start with being

kinder to myself. I think that we all bash ourselves, whether we know it or not, and it could be subtle, you know, it's not just the negative self-talk and the character assassination, calling yourself an idiot once

Noel. It could be just subtle things that you do where you treat yourself in a way

that you would never treat someone that you really care about, you know?

So ask yourself if you're being kinder to yourself.

In order to make it about you, which falls under the umbrella of self-care, and we all know why that's important,

if you can't take care of you, it's very difficult to take care of someone else you know it's like that

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