Keith and I are just back from Victoria where we spoke at a Family Life Canada

Marriage Conference and we're going to be speaking again in Quebec and April.

We just love doing these.

We've been doing this for about 12 years. So much fun.

This conference we gave a new talk on resolving conflict. It's one that we used to give years ago, but they've changed up the talks.

And so for the last few years we've been doing communication

instead of conflict so this was a new talk for us we had to prepare it and it got me

thinking again about some of the things that I talked about in nine

thoughts that can change your marriage and so I want to share one big thing with you

today on this podcast. So here we are in the to love honor and vacuum podcast I'm

Sheila Greguer and I'm so glad you've joined me where we like to talk about

how to make marriage into a passionate

adventure and not a big to-do list and part of that passionate adventure is to

feel like you're connected. It's very hard to feel like you're connected when you're

constantly having conflict.

But I find that the way that we talk about conflict can sometimes combine things that shouldn't

really be combined.

So let me explain. When we started doing our marriage

conferences 12 13 years ago we were given this curriculum that we had to

teach and the curriculum on conflict walked you through all of these things like how to say, how to express

yourself well, how to listen, how to walk through forgiveness, and it just made everything

seems so very very very serious.

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