Ep. 90 Sexuality and Empowerment with Zara Barrie
Recovering From Reality
Dear Media, Alexis Haines
4.8 • 2.1K Ratings
🗓️ 21 September 2020
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
In this weeks episode I am joined by Zara Barrie (@zarabarrie). Zara Barrie is a writer who has been pouring her heart out and offering up heaps of advice to girls across the great expanse of the internet for over a decade. She was a wildly popular teen blogger notorious for her angst-ridden detailed accounts of her hard-partying weekends, her melodramatic adolescent depression, and her screwy relationship with food. For college, she attended California Institute of The Arts where she studied theatre. She haphazardly fell into a professional writing career when she scored a job as Senior Writer at the ever-popular digital publication, Elite Daily. At Elite Daily, Zara starred in, produced and wrote a popular original web-series “Lez Get You Laid: Sex and Dating Advice To Men From A Lesbian” and hosted a weekly live advice show for the publication. Zara has recently launched her own bad girl wellness site: "The Dirty Beauty." She writes a weekly column for GO Magazine and is the cohost of DNR's popular weekly radio show AnxieTEA Radio. Her bevy of viral essays and videos are regularly discussed in mainstream media outlets such as; The View, The Real, The Talk, Huffington Post, Cosmo, Refinery29, Bustle, and Elite Daily. She's on the squad of influencers for Samsung, and hosts events with celebrities and artists in their exclusive meatpacking district space. She's a founding board member of The Stonewall Inn Gives Back Initiative, a powerful non-profit that focuses on empowering the underserved LGBTQ youth in rural America. She identifies as a mascara lesbian and lives beyond her means in New York. (Bio via zarabarrie.com)
In this episode we dive into topics like:
- The millennial perspective on the evolution of self-exploration and mental health
- Zara’s new book, Girl, Stop Passing Out in Your Makeup
- The male attention that accompanies puberty
- Identifying as lesbian and processing sexual trauma caused by men
- Zara’s story of sexual abuse, her career path, self-medicating, eating struggles, OCD, and more
- Working through trauma in therapy and the lifelong journey to recovery
- The importance of creative expression
- The effects of sharing your mental health story publicly
- Zara and Alexis' perspective on sexuality and the empowerment it gives you
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Produced by Dear Media
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast is a deer media production. |
| 0:07.5 | Hey, this is Alexis Haines and welcome to Recovering from Reality, |
| 0:11.6 | where I illuminate the messy and magical path of coming home to yourself. |
| 0:16.1 | Whether you're on the road to recovery, seeking self-care techniques for surviving the |
| 0:20.5 | capitalist machine, or just need a moment to remember that you're not alone in your loneliness, |
| 0:26.2 | we're serving up the ultimate truth. Your challenges don't define you, how you deal with them does. |
| 0:33.0 | So are you ready to recover from reality? |
| 0:39.3 | I've always connected deeply to the messy people, they're my friends too. |
| 0:45.1 | And it's interesting because I've also found that just in like LGBTQ culture, |
| 0:50.8 | you do get a lot of messy people and I mean that in the most beautiful sense of the word, |
| 0:55.8 | because I also think that coming out is such a big deal. And it still is. I know people are like, |
| 1:03.4 | oh, Gen Z has it so much easier, maybe in LA and New York they do, but the world is not LA and New York. |
| 1:12.2 | But I think that once you come out and you, it's like opening up Pandora's Box and the real you, |
| 1:20.7 | you've done this, your sexuality, I believe exists at the core of who you are. |
| 1:25.9 | So when you embrace it and you say, I'm going to risk my relationships with my parents, |
| 1:30.4 | my friends, with society, with all these people, and I'm just going to embrace the core of who I am, |
| 1:37.9 | you just unlock all this magic. |
| 1:42.0 | That was a quick clip from this week's episode with Zara Berry. You know, I had so much fun with Zara. |
| 1:49.2 | She's just so pretty to look at, but she's also really, really fun to talk to. |
| 1:55.3 | If you haven't heard about Zara, she is a writer who has been pouring her heart out and offering up |
| 2:02.2 | heaps of advice to girls across the great expanse of the internet for over a decade now. |
| 2:08.6 | She was a wildly popular teen blogger, notorious for her angst ridden, |
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