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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Lisa Pressman and today's episode is a solo episode,

just you guys with me. I'm answering listener questions from my direct messages on Instagram

at Raising Good Humans podcast. Today I'm talking about raising entitled kids,

whining, rewards and motivation, and parental judgment. If you enjoyed this solo episode,

don't hesitate to subscribe, rate, and write a little review. And of course, keep sending in your

questions on at Raising Good Humans podcast on my Instagram and have a great week.

Here are four tips on how to avoid raising entitled kids. The first tip is making sure,

from a young age, that you don't remove a child's ability to cope with not getting their way.

So imagine you have a toddler who's so upset, they really had their heart set on

the sippy cup that was blue. And that's not the sippy cup they got. And so they throw a tantrum or

they just seem really down about it and you just swap it out for the one that they wanted.

That seems perfectly innocent. It probably saves a little bit of tantruming in the short term.

But it sends the message in these small ways that you will fix whatever disappointment there is

and that they don't have to feel the feelings of disappointment. This can also happen on play dates

or with siblings when you make everything exactly equal. Now, that's not to say you should just

tell kids, this is what it is and life is hard. You want to empathize with them and say,

I know you really had your heart set on that blue cup. Right now, I put a red cup down,

but tomorrow we can set aside the blue cup. Another way this comes about is when you play

four games with kids or races with kids and we just really want them to win. Now, I'm not saying

you should just get super competitive with young children and always beat them because you're

the grown up, but allow them to lose games, allow them to sit with the feelings of frustration when

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