Welcome to Healing Broken Trust. We're excited to be here with you today for today's live.

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Healing after betrayal, right, can feel impossible. When couples get stuck in the negative cycle,

where, especially where the hurt partner keeps emphasizing how painful

and damaging the betrayal was, while the one who caused the harm defends themselves through

minimizing behaviors, like it wasn't that serious or I had a reason or you're overreacting,

right? So that's important. Yeah, Morgan, research shows that perpetrators often downplay harm

while victims naturally focus on the impact of what happened to them.

But what happens in strong relationships, strong romantic relationships,

victims aren't always about maximizing as much as you would assume.

Instead, the biggest problem is often the person who caused the harm, the unfaithful partners, minimizing, which ends up blocking safety. And as a

result, creates a secondary injury. Yeah. So in this conversation that we're having today,

we are breaking down how the cycle works in a fair recovery,

why interpretation matters as much as behavior, and how real healing starts when the unfaithful

partner shifts from defensiveness to responsibility, you know, that I understand why it feels that big, right, that being able to express that.

Those statements help a lot.

And the betrayed partner kind of shifts from the interrogation phase to the trust-building questions.

Like, what are you doing to make sure this never happens again, right?

So when couples learn to hold both truths, right? We've got to be

able to hold both truths in, in mind. The damage was real and the repair is possible. They stop

kind of repeating the same fight and begin rebuilding trust through accountability, safer, you know, safer meaning making, right?

That's important meaning making and forgiveness that actually lasts.

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