Ep 86 - When the Unfaithful Sees the Affair Partner In A Positive Light
Healing Broken Trust In Your Marriage After Infidelity
Brad and Morgan Robinson
4.6 • 737 Ratings
🗓️ 17 January 2026
⏱️ 32 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of Healing Broken Trust, we tackle the complex issue of affair nostalgia, a significant emotional roadblock in the journey to reconciliation after infidelity. We explore the listener's question about dealing with a partner who still holds an affair in a positive light, making reconciliation challenging. The discussion delves into the emotional struggles of both the betrayed and the unfaithful, offering insights into the need for genuine remorse, the importance of feeling chosen, and strategies for dismantling the idealized view of an affair partner. Join us as we navigate the winding road to healing and rebuilding a stronger, more authentic relationship.
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, welcome to Healing Broken Trust for Brad and Morgan Robinson, and we have a great show for you today. |
| 0:09.2 | Actually, we have a listener question that we want to discuss today. The listener says, my husband |
| 0:16.2 | said that the only thing that he feels bad about his two-year affair is hurting me. He's not sorry |
| 0:22.6 | that he found happiness with his affair partner. And I really want to reconcile, but if he will |
| 0:28.5 | always see his affair partner in a good light, I cannot reconcile. So they would appreciate |
| 0:35.1 | any insight. And one of the biggest emotional roadblocks to healing broken trust after an affair is something that's known as a fair nostalgia. |
| 0:46.5 | And when the unfaithful partner still holds the affair in a positive light, that can be really hard. |
| 0:52.9 | So we're going to talk about that, Brad. |
| 0:53.8 | Yeah, and that's basically what a fair nostalgia is. It's when the unfaithful partner is held |
| 0:58.2 | in a positive light. People will talk about like, it meant so much to me, it was so great, |
| 1:04.1 | I love it. They're not really communicating any sort of remorse or regret. They're not really, |
| 1:12.6 | they're not portraying that they're sorry. |
| 1:19.2 | You know, maybe I'm sorry to get caught, but they're not really like warm or empathetic, |
| 1:23.8 | that kind of thing. They don't regret. It's almost like they don't have any regret for having the affair. Yeah. And, you know, an example of this could, there's a lot of different examples of this. |
| 1:28.2 | One is like, like the listener question, you know, like the affair's been over. |
| 1:33.6 | You know, he had this two-year affair. |
| 1:36.7 | It's over, but they're not really even sorry. |
| 1:39.1 | That could be one because they're still idolizing the affair. |
| 1:42.3 | Another could be like anytime they talk about the affair partner, |
| 1:45.8 | they talk about how beautiful the person was or handsome they were. |
| 1:49.1 | It's like, man, this person was so handsome, so beautiful. |
| 1:52.4 | And it's like, oh my gosh, just cut me in a million pieces. |
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