they're often more likely to apologize when they think what they did was unintentional so we're

going to get into some of this research on why they how they figure this out so when people feel like

what they did was unintentional they're more likely to apologize so that's actually really important

because guilt is what drives apology. So if I feel guilty,

that's why I'm apologizing. And guilt can be blocked by defensiveness, rationalizing, or shame

when the betrayal involves deliberate choices. So the injured partner is often thinking,

you chose this. So own it, repair it. Why won't you do this makes him angry like you do something about

this while the unfaithful partner may be thinking i already said i'm sorry why isn't it over or they may

even be thinking worse like i didn't feel guilty at all you know or i've been hurt for a while

you know we're going to get into some of that that kind of disconnect can stall healing in a very big way because after i've been hurt i'm excited you We're going to get into some of that. That kind of disconnect can stall

healing in a very big way because after I've been hurt, I'm expecting you to show me that you're

trustworthy. I'm expecting you to show me that you're choosing the marriage and us again. And so when

that kind of thing happens, it's really, really, really brutal. So today we're going to break down

what each side is really needing,

why apologies often fail after intentional betrayal,

and what a healing apology actually includes.

Includes things like ownership, empathy for the impact that's happened,

and a real change plan, like a real, you know, path for creating change.

So trust can start becoming rebuilt step by step instead of getting stuck in the same

painful negative cycle.

Yeah.

So yeah.

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