EP 638: Why You Keep Falling Off Your Healing Journey (And the 3-Step Identity Shift That Actually Makes Change Stick)

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Relationships, Education, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 30 March 2026

⏱️ 27 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Y'all, I have to be honest with you. Back in 2019, I had the doctorate, I had read every book, I knew all the things, and I was still dysregulated, exhausted, and chasing my self-worth through every relationship I could find. So if you've tried the journaling, the morning routine, the affirmations, and none of it has stuck, you are not broken. You just haven't done the identity work yet. And that's exactly what this episode is about.

Inside this episode:

Why connecting to the pain of staying the same is the most powerful motivator you haven't used yet, and the journaling prompts I give myself to get really honest about it
How to find your necessity, your WHY that's bigger than your resistance, and the deeply personal story about my twin sister that still makes me emotional every time I tell it
The identity clarity work that actually makes change stick, including how to identify your 3-4 core desired emotions and work backward from there into the life you want

🎧 Go listen and then DM me @drmorgancoaching, I want to know: what are your three core desired emotions?

💫 Ready to do this work with me, one-on-one? Learn more about the ESL Private 1:1 Intensive Coaching Experience at https://www.drmorgancoaching.co/esl-breakthrough

🔗 Additional Episode Links:

Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz → https://drmorgancoaching.com/quiz
Follow me on IG → @drmorgancoaching
Grab my book: Grab my best selling book Love Magnet

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable.
0:41.9	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.9	I am your host, Dr. Morgan, clinical psychologist, attachment theory expert.
0:50.4	I have been having the time of my life lately, just doing some incredible interviews, had
0:56.6	amazing time in New York. I'll be headed to L.A. in April at some point. I am so grateful
1:03.6	to be living the life that I'm living. I have an incredible husband. I have a business that I've
1:10.3	built since 2020. Actually, it's more like
1:13.9	2019. A business that I love, career that feels like a calling more than a job. I have healed a lot
1:23.6	of relationships with family. My family relationships are the best they've ever been.
1:30.3	Friendships that fill me up, people who inspire me, I'm taking care of my health in a way that
1:35.9	feels sustainable. I have a lot of financial peace and security there. My life is so different
1:44.0	from where it was in 2019.
1:47.8	So I am inspired today to talk to you about what was the thing that was absolutely required of me
1:57.1	in order to start to make changes. Because where I am today, this was not an overnight
2:04.3	thing. It was not snap my fingers, boom, I'm someone different. But there was something that was
2:11.1	absolutely required of me to begin the journey and maintain the journey of getting to where I am today. And I want to
2:20.4	talk to you about what that is. So first off, I don't know if any of you have been following me
2:28.1	since 2019 or 2020. Some of you maybe have been a lot of OG listeners. But back in 2019, before I even launched this podcast, you would not recognize that version of me.
2:43.2	I was still operating with low self-worth.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Dr. Morgan Anderson, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Dr. Morgan Anderson and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.