You're listening to episode 63 of the baggage reclaim sessions and it's time for an addition of why did we break up.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of baggage reclaimcom, where I help people to offload the shady relationships

and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

Welcome to another episode of Why Did We Break Up,

the podcast where I explore real break-ups and their relationships behind them

so that the stuck party can begin to gain closure but also it's to help

anyone who has ever felt that they've loved and lost to look at relationships

from a more compassionate place.

I ask every person who takes part in this show,

if you could tell somebody in one sentence why the relationship didn't work

and why you broke up, what would you say?

He had really been shaken up by our involvement,

but the subconscious fear of having to face everything he had been running away from

since he was 12 was stronger.

This is true in part, although I think that sometimes we fall into the trap of focusing on someone else's issues and what we think they need to address, and we don't give

anywhere near enough attention to our issues that are slotting in with theirs.

When we would be willing to accept less than a truly loving partner,

we do have to ask ourselves,

what is going on with me that would make me okay with this?

When we confront that truth, we stop hiding behind others and we also stop opening

us up to unnecessary hurt.

Stephanie 19 moved to London in September 2015 from a small village in the South of France to study social sciences.

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