You're listening to episode 61 of the Baggage Reclaim sessions and it's time for an addition of why did we break up?

I'm your host, Nastily Lou, author of Baggage reclaim.com, where I help people to offload

the shady relationships and emotional baggage that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

Well hello there and welcome to another episode of why did we break up.

This is where I explore real breakups and the relationships behind them,

so that the stock party can begin to gain closure, but also it's really to help anyone

who has ever felt that they've loved and lost to look at relationships

from a more compassionate place.

I ask every person who takes part in this show if you could tell somebody in one

sentence why the relationship didn't work and why you broke up, what would you say?

I believe that it's me having an STD,

but he says that it's because I'm an extrovert

and I don't read comic books. I do believe that her having an STD did play a part and that he did change his mind about pursuing a relationship with her.

But I fear that this is really the trees, not the wood,

and that when she understands that when you put somebody on a pedestal because you are really, really hard on yourself, that not only is the only place for them to look at you is from above, but it also

means that you will go into an involvement for the wrong reasons, almost for salvation, and that's just too much power

to give someone. Joanne and Lars met at her best friend's wedding five years ago and ever since

then he has been in various social circles of hers. At their time when they met he was on a

date and he wasn't even on her radar. But the next time she met him he was in a relationship which went on for another four years.

He lived with his now ex-girlfriend and they were apparently unofficially engaged.

During this time, her perception of him

really changed, I guess, quite dramatically

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