This week I tackle worry and anxiety.

Plus I help a listener figure out what to do when you've been dating somebody for a month

and they say that they're exclusive yet they

actually don't have time to date you. I'm Natalie Lou a writer based in southeast

London who is dedicated to helping people to improve their emotional and relationship literacy.

Let's kick this off.

One of the things that I've been learning to do over the last couple of months and I'm really learning to

embrace it is asking others for help. What I've discovered in going around

talking to readers and to family and friends is that a lot of people

don't know how to ask for help and what we don't realize is that asking our nearest and dearest or reaching out to people who we think can help us

is a way of letting people in but when we kind of carry on as if we're a superwoman or

Superman then people don't really necessarily know what we're going through until, for instance, we erupt because we're frustrated with people around us because we think, well, hold on, you know, I'm exhausted from doing all of this stuff and nobody's helping me and we don't actually stop to think, well, hold on a second, I didn't actually let these people in or maybe I just hope that they would notice.

And also sometimes we end up really, really frustrated with ourselves

because we end up feeling as if we can't sort of get everything done

and so we're giving ourselves a hard time

because we have this never ending

to do list. With me I know that I don't necessarily ask for help not because I

think that I'm superwoman although I think I am sort of guilty sometimes as if I'm carrying on like it because I do find

I'm juggling a hell of a lot of things.

But I think I often don't ask for help at those crucial points because I'm thinking, oh well,

I'll go and find out about it

I'll you know I'll research it so spend a lot of time trying to figure stuff out

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