EP 581: Securely Attached Habits - What You Need to Know for Healthy Relationships

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 22 September 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Today’s episode is packed with wisdom that will change the way you think about love, connection, and how you show up in your relationships.

I’m breaking down the habits of securely attached people so that you can begin embodying them in your own life. Because here’s the truth: secure attachment is not luck, and it’s not something you either have or don’t have. It’s about intentionally healing, rewiring, and building new habits that create lasting love.

Inside the episode, I talk about:

✨ Radical ownership of your healing journey - why waiting for the “right person” isn’t the answer, and how secure people take full responsibility for how they show up.

✨ Emotional regulation over reactivity - how securely attached people slow down, check in with themselves, and respond intentionally (instead of letting emotions run the show).

✨ Valuing and prioritizing relationships - why secure people play the long game, invest in reciprocity, and make connection a priority in a world full of “pseudo-connection.”

If you’ve ever wondered what secure love really looks like in action, you’ll want to listen closely and maybe even take notes on this one

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and let's get vulnerable.
0:41.8	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.8	I'm your host, Dr. Morgan.
0:47.1	Today's episode is an important one for you, no matter where you are on your healing
0:52.5	journey.
0:53.5	We are diving into the habits of securely
0:56.4	attached people. What are securely attached people doing differently? And this is important
1:03.0	because so many of us, we never had models. We never had examples of what is a healthy relationship. How does a securely
1:13.7	attached person show up? What does a securely attached person prioritize, right? We had models of
1:21.4	insecure attachment, the anxious attachment, avoidant, disorganized, and models of people in unhealthy relationships are just
1:30.5	okay relationships, right? But you know I am all about helping you embody your highest and best,
1:39.9	securely attached self, so that you can have those relationships that you deserve. So this is an
1:46.9	important episode because we're going to dive into. I have eight habits of securely attached people and
1:53.4	each of these is very important. So I know this is going to be one of those ones where you might
1:58.9	want to take notes or you're going to come back and listen.
2:02.3	Or if you're like me, you'd be taking notes in the notes app on your phone.
2:06.7	How many of you have like 4,000 notes in your notes app?
2:11.0	Am I the only one?
2:12.2	This is wild at this point.
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