This is episode 56 of the Baggage Reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of Baggage reclaim.com,

where I help people to offload the shady relationships and emotional baggage

that block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

This week I talk about why other people's shady behavior or them disappointing us isn't provoked by our worth

and I talk about the importance of putting off instant and temporary satisfaction for something more rewarding.

Welcome to another episode of the show.

So, I was talking with a couple of friends recently and they were saying about how they had run into a couple of issues that basically boiled down to somebody had expected something of each of them

and they didn't know that it was expected and then the person had gotten mad at

them.

Now this is actually one of my own pet peeves as well.

You know that sense of where people expect you to be a mind reader.

And actually I grew up in an environment where there was this whole like expected

to understand what was expected or what somebody else is thinking about them even turned around

and saying so and it's actually really

really stressful. But the thing is is this whole us as humans doing things for

people with an idea of what we think should happen is incredibly common.

And what we don't realize is that this amounts to us a lot of the time

expecting people to be mind readers.

And so what this can board down to is, for instance,

avoiding saying or doing something to see if the person will do what it is that we want.

Now there's no two ways about this.

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