Ep. 558 Why Being “Nice” Makes You Invisible to Women
How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast
Marni Kinrys & Kristen Carney
4.4 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 23 December 2025
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
Most men think attraction is built by being polite, respectful, and safe.
But that’s exactly why so many women feel nothing, even when the guy checks all the boxes.
In this episode, Marni breaks down the biggest misunderstanding men have about attraction with Kurt who is a listener of the podcast. Why logic, effort, and approval seeking quietly kill chemistry before it ever starts. You’ll learn the difference between emotional attraction and emotional safety, why asking permission drains polarity, and how men accidentally skip the flirting phase without realizing it.
If you’ve ever heard “You’re a great guy, I just don’t feel the spark,” this episode explains what actually went wrong and how to stop being invisible without becoming arrogant, manipulative, or fake.
This is about emotional leadership, polarity, and creating attraction on purpose.
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| 1:01.8 | When did you last say something so perfectly timed that she got butterflies and couldn't stop |
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| 1:41.9 | Coming up on this week's episode of the Ask Woman podcast, I have Kurt, who is a listener to |
| 1:47.4 | our podcast, and he has an amazing resource to share with you. |
| 1:51.5 | He's going to talk to us about speed dating and why it can literally transform your dating |
| 1:58.7 | life. |
| 1:59.2 | Simply by going to events and doing speed dating, |
| 2:02.9 | it will change how you interact with women |
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