Ep. 557 How to Spark Attraction in the First 30 Seconds
How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast
Marni Kinrys & Kristen Carney
4.4 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 16 December 2025
⏱️ 44 minutes
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Summary
Approaching women in public is rarer than ever, which means if you can do it well, you instantly stand out.
In this episode, Marni and Kristen break down the real “first impression” stuff that actually matters: your face, your eyes, your smile, your energy, and your tonality. You’ll learn how to fix resting “don’t talk to me” face, how to use subtle push-pull with expressions, and a simple way to practice on camera so women feel safe, curious, and open around you.
Then dating coach Patrick James joins to share how to create attraction fast without overthinking your lines. Why being direct works better than “interview questions,” how to start conversations that feel natural, and the secret move that makes you stand out in under a minute: playful rapport breaks.
>>> Want Patrick’s exact playbook? Grab his book 107 Proven Ways to Get the Girl here: https://www.howtogetthegirlnow.com/
>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching
>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Okay, let's be honest. We all love a little truth, don't we, or some of us are really scared |
| 0:04.3 | of it. But the truth is, most dating advice out there, not to slam the industry, but a lot of it |
| 0:10.2 | is really cringy, it's really generic, overused, and frankly, not that good. I'm Kristen. I'm one of |
| 0:20.3 | the co-hosts of the show, and I'm here to save you from bad |
| 0:24.3 | coaching because I don't do run-of-the-mill coaching. Consider me the unlikely dating coach. And for that |
| 0:33.6 | reason, my unique flair gives you this huge advantage over so many men taking the traditional |
| 0:40.2 | coaching route. The results that my clients get speak for themselves and the feedback I get |
| 0:45.3 | sometimes blows my mind, too, to be honest with you. So fill out an application to work with |
| 0:51.3 | yours truly at Kristen and chilld dating.com forward slash coaching. |
| 0:56.9 | I'd love to take you from dud to stud. Just kidding, you're not a dud. But we will definitely, |
| 1:03.8 | definitely make you into 100% stud. Hi, it's Marnie, your very own personal wing girl. And I wanted |
| 1:10.3 | to ask you, have you been |
| 1:12.1 | confused, frustrated, annoyed by your dating life and all of the lack of success that you're having? |
| 1:18.9 | Or are you struggling to get matches in life or struggling to have matches in real life where |
| 1:24.2 | women actually see you and notice you? Then it's time for you and I to get on the phone and talk this through. |
| 1:30.8 | Figure out what the heck is going on, |
| 1:32.6 | why you aren't getting the kind of success you should be getting with women. |
| 1:37.3 | So if you want to talk to me and figure this crap out, |
| 1:40.1 | which I know you do, then go to winggirlmethod.com slash coaching Marnie. |
| 1:46.4 | Go to winggirlmethad.com slash coaching Marnie and we will have a free 20 to 40 minute call |
| 1:53.8 | where we are going to literally go through your dating life. What's going on? What's going on |
| 2:00.1 | in your head? What's going on in your body? What's going on in your body? What's going on |
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