EP 552: Securely Attached Dating 101: What to Do (and What to Stop Now)

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 11 June 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

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If you’ve ever felt like dating is exhausting, confusing, or just plain hopeless — this episode is for you. I’m sharing the exact do’s and don’ts of securely attached dating that will help you stop chasing, stop settling, and start attracting real, healthy love.

Inside this episode, I share:

How to date with high self-worth and surrender (instead of anxiety and overgiving)
The truth about asking, “What are we?” — and why secure women don’t fear clarity
Why doing your own emotional work is the most important part of attracting love

You’ll walk away from this episode feeling empowered, grounded, and ready to date like the secure woman you’re becoming. 💗

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Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and let's get vulnerable.
0:42.1	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.9	I'm your host, Dr. Morgan.
0:46.8	Today's episode is a juicy one.
0:48.7	We are getting into securely attached dating, do's and don'ts.
0:53.1	I'm going to tell you all of the things that you should be
0:55.5	doing as someone with secure attachment. And by the way, this will apply to you if you're in a
1:00.6	relationship as well. And then obviously all the things that you should not be doing as someone
1:08.1	with secure attachment. So this will be a helpful episode to you no matter where
1:12.2	you are on your dating journey. And obviously I am so grateful to this community. I've been getting
1:19.4	a ton of DMs from you all lately. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for your podcast reviews.
1:25.1	I was reading those reviews the other day and it seriously
1:28.3	just brought me to tears. I love hearing from you all. Let's get into today's episode, y'all.
1:37.5	I'm so excited. We are going to talk about the securely attached dating dues and don'ts.
1:42.7	And I need you to know this, that this episode is
1:47.9	going to remind you that you are not too much. There's nothing wrong with you, right?
1:56.0	That is all about how do we shift and how do we change how we show up our change our nervous system,
2:04.7	change our attachment system so that we are showing up differently to our dating lives, right?
2:11.6	I think so often I think about Martin Seligman and his research on learned helplessness and how that applies to
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