EP 527: Why Forgiveness Isn't Always the Anwser with Sylvie
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
4.8 • 1.7K Ratings
🗓️ 18 February 2026
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
What if forgiveness isn't the next step?
In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that "forgiveness is for you," she finds herself stuck.
Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn't blocked because we're not spiritual enough — it's blocked because we've skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be.
If you've ever tried to forgive but couldn't get there — or felt ashamed that you're still angry — this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first.
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Consider / Ask Yourself:
- Is there someone you feel you "should" forgive but can't?
- Are you trying to spiritually bypass anger or confrontation?
- Do you avoid conflict, even when something deeply hurt you?
- Are you holding onto resentment because speaking up feels harder?
- Is there a clearing conversation you've been postponing?
Key Insights and A-HAs:
- Forgiveness is not condoning someone's behavior.
- Forgiveness is about releasing the beliefs and judgments keeping you stuck — not excusing the action.
- Sometimes the growth edge isn't forgiveness — it's confrontation.
- Anger is not unspiritual; it's information and energy that must be processed.
- Avoiding hard conversations can keep betrayal alive in the body.
- Peace often comes from self-advocacy, not silence.
How to Deepen the Work:
- Ask yourself if there is a conversation that needs to happen before you can move forward.
- Explore somatic or anger-release work to move stored emotion out of your body.
- Notice where you are confusing forgiveness with people-pleasing.
- Practice being a stand for yourself in small ways before having larger confrontations.
- Shift the goal from "forgiveness" to "peace and acceptance."
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| 0:00.0 | This is episode 527, Why Forgiveness isn't always the answer with Sylvie. |
| 0:08.3 | Welcome to life coaching with Christine Hassler, a space where truth and love come together to |
| 0:13.6 | guide you back to your truest self. Hi, I'm Christine, a master coach, author, and spiritual |
| 0:18.9 | psychologist. For over 20 years, I've supported people through the deep work of letting go, waking up, |
| 0:24.8 | and coming home to who they truly are. |
| 0:27.1 | Each week, you'll hear an unedited, unscripted coaching session with someone moving through a challenge |
| 0:31.6 | or block in their life. |
| 0:33.1 | These are tender and powerful conversations where deep healing happens in real time. |
| 0:39.0 | Even though I'm coaching someone else, you will hear yourself in their story. This is a place where you will feel |
| 0:43.1 | seen and supported and walk away with insight, emotional relief, and tools you can apply in your |
| 0:48.8 | own life. Let's dive into today's session. |
| 0:56.0 | Welcome back to the show, everyone. |
| 1:01.9 | I hope you're enjoying this new firehorse energy of the new year that started February 17th. |
| 1:05.7 | If you missed the episode I did on that, go back and check it out. |
| 1:06.9 | It aired this past Saturday. |
| 1:14.0 | I love today's episode because I know that there are a lot of empaths, kind-hearted, |
| 1:22.0 | heart-centered people that listen to this show. You are one of them. And you want to choose love. |
| 1:32.9 | You want to forgive. And in this episode, what I offer is that forgiveness isn't always the answer or not the next step at the very least. |
| 1:45.2 | For those of us that really don't like confrontation and would rather go spiritual, would rather do the inner work, we often want forgiveness to be the answer because maybe that will make us feel better and clear things. What if there's something in between where we are now and forgiveness? And that's |
| 1:51.1 | what I really unpack with Sylvie. So as you're listening to the show, consider, |
| 1:55.8 | is there someone that you really want to forgive? I think you should forgive, but you just can't seem to get |
| 2:02.6 | there? Are you dealing with a betrayal or some kind of loss of trust? Is it hard for you to |
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