EP 498: The Secret Fears of the Avoidantly Attached: What They're Really Running From

Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice

Dr. Morgan Anderson

Mental Health, Relationships, Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 11 December 2024

⏱️ 33 minutes

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How fear of losing control sabotages connection for avoidantly attached people
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0:00.0	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Morgan Anderson, psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Wear Connoisseur. My mission is to help you raise yourself worth, have great relationships, and step confidently into the next level of your life.
0:22.3	Each week, two episodes will air featuring expert advice, live coaching, and tips, showing you
0:28.4	exactly how to improve your life and attract a healthy relationship. You deserve to feel empowered,
0:34.8	secure, and love. Buckle up and Let's Get Vulnerable.
0:41.9	Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast.
0:44.8	It's your host, Dr. Morgan.
0:46.3	And today's episode, we are going to dive into the fears of the avoidantly attached person.
0:54.0	Our last couple episodes, we were focusing on anxious
0:56.9	attachment. And today we'll go into avoidant attachment style and really understanding it at a deep
1:05.5	level because I know that avoidantly attached people get labeled all kinds of things.
1:13.2	And I feel like there's sometimes this idea like, well, I don't want to date that
1:18.6	avoidant. It's like you used as a label. Let's remind ourselves that we are people who all
1:26.9	have their different experiences and relationships relationships and we all have our own
1:31.3	attachment styles. And it's it's not as if it's this choice. If you have avoidant attachment
1:39.6	tendencies, you are not a bad person. It doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't define you. It's simply the
1:50.5	way that your brain learned how to be in relationships. And I think a lot of times, especially if you've
1:59.3	been experiencing difficulty in dating, it's easy to just start throwing labels at people, especially the label narcissists.
2:08.6	Don't even get me going there.
2:10.1	Like how often the term narcissist gets thrown around.
2:14.3	Yes, there are legit people who would meet criteria for narcissistic personality disorder
2:20.9	or narcissistic traits, but unfortunately, this has been kind of a buzzword of our time,
2:26.7	and I see it get thrown around. When honestly, sometimes people who are labeled as narcissists, they actually just have avoided
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