Hi, I'm Dr. Deb Butler, and you are listening to Thinner Peace and Menopause and Beyond.

This is episode number 485. Stay tuned.

Welcome to Thinner Peace and Menopause and Beyond.

This is Dr. Deb Butler, Master Life and Weight Coach, and as always, your coach.

If you're a woman and you're smart and you're successful and you've been struggling with weight your whole life

and now menopause is making it harder than ever and you are ready to make this the last time you ever have to go on a

diet again, then this podcast is for you. Stay tuned. Well, hello, all my dear friends all over the

world. Today, I want to talk about something that I just heard my mentor, Brooke Castillo,

talk about that made me really think about you and really made me think about the thinner

piece process. And what I want to talk about today is the difference between self-coddling

and self-love.

And the reason I think this is so important is because many of us to cuddle ourselves

and think that we're loving ourselves.

So what is self-coddling?

Self-coddling is when you let yourself off the hook in a way that hurts you long term.

And it sounds like something like this. You've had a hard day, baby. Just eat the cake. Just eat the

cookie. Oh, have a brownie. Or you can just eat, eat, eat because it's been so hard.

Or you'll never figure this out.

You might as well just enjoy yourself.

Or the common one, you deserve this.

It feels compassionate in the moment, but actually it's just giving in to urges and avoiding what's really going on.

It's emotional eating dressed up as self-care or self-love.

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