You're listening to episode 44 of the Baggage Reclaim sessions.

I'm your host Natalie Lou, author of Baggage reclaim.com,

where I help people to offload the shady relationships

and emotional baggage to block healthy self-esteem and loving relationships.

This week I talk about how getting some order around your home can help you to have more emotional and mental peace.

Plus I talk about unnecessary apologizing and backtracking.

Are you somebody who tends to assume that you're the one who's got it wrong and so you will backtrack if somebody like

correct you or you'll even apologize unnecessarily even though on some level you

know that you're not the one who's made

the mistake. Well that's what I want to talk about in this first part of the show

because my friend told me this story even though we were all in hysterics laughing it's also really the painful

reminder about sort of self-confidence and self-dad and when we basically are too much of a

people please it.

But basically what happened is that she bumped into a mom

from school who she doesn't really know that well.

And she says that actually, she tends to find that she's a bit nervous around her and so they were sort of making conversation with each other.

I think they were both waiting for their sons. My friend was running out of things to say and she is one of those people,

it feels nervous, like a lot of people do,

she will just kind of babble and start, you know, sort of

filling gaps in the conversation.

So there was what she felt was like an awkward pause.

And so she turned around and she said something like,

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