EP 412: The Anxious-Avoidant Dating Trap (And What to Do to Stop It)
Let’s Get Vulnerable: Relationship and Dating Advice
Dr. Morgan Anderson
4.7 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 12 February 2024
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Today’s topic is utterly fascinating, and if it’s ever happened to you, you know just how painful it can be.
I am talking about the anxious/avoidant dating trap, where these opposing attachment styles are drawn to one another like a moth to a flame.
Inside this episode:
-I review both anxious and avoidant attachment styles and the beliefs they have about relationships
-I share how you can break the cycle of the anxious/avoidant dating rollercoaster
-Important parts when to consider when healing the anxious/avoidant dynamic in a couple
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Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction and Overview
03:22 Anxious Attachment
04:20 Avoidant Attachment
07:41 Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic
12:26 Physical Intimacy in Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic
14:20 Moving Towards Secure Attachment
15:43 Working on Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic
18:28 Asking for Reassurance and Giving Reassurance
21:20 Disorganized Attachment
23:14 Taking Action to Changed
26:02 Conclusion
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the Let's Get Vulnerable Podcast. I'm your host Dr. Morgan Anderson, |
| 0:05.6 | psychologist, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, creator of the ESL |
| 0:10.4 | relationship method, author of Love Magnet and Athletic Ware Connoisseur. the into the next level of your life. Each week, two episodes will air |
| 0:24.0 | featuring expert advice, live coaching, |
| 0:27.0 | and tips showing you exactly how to improve your life |
| 0:30.0 | and attract a healthy relationship. |
| 0:32.0 | You deserve to feel empowered, secure, and love. |
| 0:36.2 | Buckle up and let's get vulnerable. |
| 0:42.2 | It's February and there's that one holiday that happens in February that so many of us |
| 0:48.0 | pretend to not care about but deep down we wish we had that person that was going to write us a letter, |
| 0:55.8 | take us to dinner, maybe buy us some flowers and chocolate. |
| 1:00.0 | We just want to feel loved, appreciated, and adored. |
| 1:04.0 | And on February 14th, when we don't feel that way, |
| 1:07.5 | it becomes really obvious what's missing in our lives. |
| 1:11.0 | I want to help you finally do the work. our lives you to |
| 1:15.0 | to attract the work on you that allows you to attract the relationship |
| 1:19.6 | you've always wanted. |
| 1:21.0 | Now is the time, not next month, not when work slows down. Now is the time to |
| 1:28.9 | put yourself first and decide that you will heal your relational wounds, you'll let go of the things |
| 1:35.1 | that are no longer serving you, and you'll step into your securely attached |
| 1:40.3 | high self-worth version of you. |
| 1:44.0 | You get to rewrite your love story. |
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