Ep. 4 - When your ex starts to see someone new
How to Get Over Your Ex
Dorothy AB Johnson
4.7 • 577 Ratings
🗓️ 20 October 2019
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
The day is here! I'm sharing my breakup story with all of you which includes a third person. Learn what I was making the new girl mean about me and how in reality our ex dating someone new has EVERYTHING to do with them and nothing to do with us.
Our brain's default is to 1) compare and despair or 2) make it mean something about us or 3) both. How is this playing out in your life and what can we do about it?
Finding compassion for the human he is, experiencing the 50% negative and 50% positive was my way of doing this and what I teach my clients. Learn more about this process in today's episode!
In this episode:
- What it really means when he/she is with someone else
- What we make it mean
- The compare and despair affect
- How to find compassion in the moment to feel better
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to How to Get Over Your Ex with Dorothy A.B. Johnson, episode number four, when he starts to see someone new. |
| 0:14.5 | Welcome to How to Get Over Your Ex, a podcast on getting over your ex without it just taking time. |
| 0:25.1 | I'm your host, breakup coach Dorothy. Let's turn your pain into power and your heartbreak into happy. |
| 0:33.1 | All right, guys. So today is the day. I'm going to get real with all of you today. Are you ready? |
| 0:41.2 | So we're going to talk about my heartbreak. This is so nerve-wracking to me. I've learned so much from this, |
| 0:48.5 | but I'm going to get really vulnerable with all of you. So this is going to be good. So my heartbreak |
| 0:53.8 | happened three years ago, July of 2016. So this is going to be good. So my heartbreak happened three years ago, |
| 0:55.7 | July of 2016. I had just moved to Florida with my partner. He had finally finished dental school |
| 1:01.4 | and we were about to start our life together again. I was beyond excited guys. We had been doing |
| 1:07.3 | long distance there for a while. |
| 1:13.8 | I was living, well, so when we went to dental school, I also went to grad school. |
| 1:16.8 | And so we were closer together, but we still did long distance there. |
| 1:19.7 | And then when I finished grad school, I went up to Chicago. And so we were doing long distance between Chicago and Kentucky, which let me tell you is, |
| 1:25.7 | it's like a hike. |
| 1:26.7 | That was like five hours each way so by the time that |
| 1:30.0 | we were starting our life over again I was just so excited we had the house we had the dog |
| 1:35.3 | all of it and my dream life was like totally coming true I was so I was so excited um in the meantime |
| 1:43.0 | I was also traveling back and forth to Chicago for my work. |
| 1:46.6 | That's when I was working the consulting gig. |
| 1:49.0 | And when I was in Chicago one day, he broke up with me on the phone. |
| 1:53.5 | I was so devastated, guys. |
| 1:55.8 | It was heartbreaking. |
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