You're listening to the Life Coach School podcast with Brook Castillo episode number 393

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Brook Castillo

Hello my friends

Okay, here's what's up. I get annoyed sometimes. I used to get annoyed all the time but now I get annoyed some of the time and I handle it so much better than I used to.

And so I want to talk about being annoyed and I know that many of you have the same experience in your life of being annoyed sometimes.

And I decided to do this podcast after I had an experience where my best girlfriend who sees me all the time said to me you're funny like you get annoyed and you're super annoyed but then you're over it so quick.

And it happened right after we were playing a card game there were three of us playing a card game and it was one of those card games where you have the cards like laid out.

So you know it's kind of like we're playing Rummy so it's like you put the cards down as you're you know laying down your cards to be counted for you if you're doing well and you play on each other's cards and that sort of thing.

So it was like a whole thing and one of our friends was taking a picture from above which was super cool actually the picture that she was taking was like of all the cards on the table.

She's like super artistic takes really fun pictures and she knocked over a glass of champagne as she was doing this and it spilled all over all of my cards and all over me.

And I had like this moment where I was really annoyed with her.

And it's funny like I can't hide my own annoyance like when it comes when I'm like processing it and I don't see anything and I don't react to it and I don't like you know y'all are act crazy but I kind of like internally experience it and so it's clearly on my face and I try to just keep my mouth shut.

And then I take a minute I process it and then you know and she's like oh my gosh I'm so sorry I didn't mean to do that I was like oh it's fine you have to take the pictures it's fine and I had like shifted gears within just a few minutes and so we were laughing about that because my other girlfriend didn't get annoyed at all like certain different things annoy each of us and this is just one of those like having champagne spilled all over me in my cards just gave me a moment of annoyance but anyway they were asking me like how do you get over that.

So quickly how do you get over that feeling of annoyance so quickly and it's from lots of practice because I used to get annoyed and then I would kind of like lash out.

And there are times there have been a few times within the past couple years where I've been kind of in a vulnerable state I was already dealing with a lot of emotional processing where I like lash out from annoyance but it's actually very rare now.

And it's because I'm able to utilize the model I'm able to pause right in the middle of a model and keep myself in check before I get to my a line with emotions and I do think it's a level of practice.

I do not think this is something that gets better with age or time.

This is something you actually have to practice.

So I googled what it means to be annoyed and it says slightly angry or irritated and I think that's a pretty good definition I looked up what's the opposite of annoyed and it would be delighted.

So I like those two words together annoyed and delighted.

So are you someone that gets annoyed easily are you someone that gets annoyed with the same person regularly with the same things over and over.

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