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This is Feminist Wellness, and I'm your host, nurse practitioner, somatics, and nervous system nerd, and life coach, Bea Victoria Albina.

I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency, so you can live from your beautiful heart. Welcome, my love. Let's get

started. Hello, hello, my love. And I hope this finds you doing so well. Welcome back to this

series we are calling The Work. Last week, we started looking at the subtle emotional patterns

that shape how we move through relationships and change.

And today, I want to talk about something people don't always realize about growth.

I know I for sure did not realize this when I started devouring self-help books and really trying to change and better my life so I could step out of emotional outsourcing our codependent, perfectionist and people-pleasing habits.

And that's the difference between wanting change and actually being available for change.

Like, I didn't realize that they're not always the same thing, and realizing it,

and then doing the work to get ready to make the change, like the meta work,

really made all the difference. Because like a lot of people say they want change,

but there's such a difference between actually stepping up to the plate and doing the work

and just talking about wanting to do the work, if that makes sense.

And maybe if you're like, but I don't really get the difference, then that's exactly why you're here to hear about the difference. So if you've ever felt stuck in the same patterns,

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