Ep. 37: Are You Feeling This?
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 22 July 2016
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values, and talks about why passive-aggressive gifts really are not a gift at all. This week's listener question is about how to overcome feelings of jealousy and revenge and Natalie shares what she learned from facing down the big challenge of driving on the motorway. Curbing Your Obsession guide - http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/curbing-your-obsession-quick-guide-pdf-epub/
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| 0:00.0 | This is episode 37 of the Baggage Reclaim sessions. |
| 0:05.0 | I'm your host, Masley Lou, author of Baggage reclaim.com, |
| 0:10.0 | where I help people to offload the shady relationships and emotional baggage that block healthy |
| 0:14.8 | self-esteem and loving relationships. |
| 0:18.2 | This week I talk about figuring out your values and why being too passive can be a real turnoff in a relationship. |
| 0:25.0 | I recently met up with a really good friend of mine who has just been through a breakup. |
| 0:33.0 | They've only been together for a few months, |
| 0:35.0 | and after it got off to a flying start, |
| 0:38.0 | she realized that it wasn't really going to go anywhere. |
| 0:43.0 | Much as she thought he was a great guy, you know, they got on to a certain degree. |
| 0:48.0 | She felt like he didn't really chase her. |
| 0:52.0 | Or at least that's how she described it. As we taught, what became quite apparent |
| 0:58.0 | is that it wasn't actually really about chasing. It was about the fact that he didn't really show up in the relationship. |
| 1:06.0 | He pretty much left it up to her about when to meet up and he really was very passive in the relationship. |
| 1:14.4 | And so in this first part of the show, I want to talk about why |
| 1:18.0 | how we can end up coming across as being |
| 1:22.3 | disinterested in someone or that we're almost trying to put the responsibility of the relationship on them when we are quite pative. |
| 1:31.0 | In my friend the situation, here's an example of the type of |
| 1:34.3 | scenario that would go down. She would be for instance at work and he would call and |
| 1:39.4 | he'd be like what are you doing you know what are you up to and she'd like oh you know to stop work and he's like how's that going she like oh you know just at work and he's like oh you know just at work and he's like oh how's that go and she's like oh you know it's really busy and he's like okay right I'll leave you to it and she be like huh and the thing is yeah she's busy at work in, like during the day, but she would have been up for meeting up with him in the evening. |
| 1:57.5 | So next thing, you know, a couple of days or so have gone by, and then he would turn around and be like oh you know I haven't |
| 2:04.0 | seen you for a few days and she would be like yeah I've been wanting to see you too and he |
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