You are listening to the Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Kostio episode number 366.

Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems and real coaching.

And now your host, Master Coach Instructor Brook Kostio.

All right, today's the day. We're going to talk about losing the last 10 pounds because we know the last 10 pounds is the hardest 10 pounds and actually so many of you keep losing that same 10 pounds over and over and over again.

So I asked my colleague Brenda Lomelli to come on. She specializes in the last 10 pounds. How to get it off, keep it off for good.

And she does it in a way that you may not expect. So welcome to the podcast Brenda. Oh my gosh, Brook. I am so excited to be here and I'm so excited to talk to your audience. I've been like almost kind of daydreaming about what are the things that I want to share because really you're so right women spend.

And I'm going to say women because that is my specialty like I work with women and I am a woman, but women will spend a lifetime like yes, either trying to lose those last 10 pounds and feeling like they just can't get there or losing it over and over and over and regaining it and that was me.

I get it not just personally because I've been there, but I also understand it professionally because I've studied it and I mean now I've coached so many women and being able to just trying to do that over and over and over and spending what feels like a lifetime on it.

Yes, I think that one of my main missions as it applies to talking about weight loss. I mean, there's so many reasons why I love the topic and I think it's very important. I think a lot of people like to dismiss it because they think, oh, it's like vanity, but there's so much work that goes into understanding this in terms of your relationship with yourself.

And for me, the amount of time and energy I spent on thinking about how many calories were in a bagel and how many carbohydrates were in pasta and just for me now when I think about the amount of time and energy that I spent.

And it wasn't like I just did it once and then it was over. It's like the constant energy that I put into that really prevented me from doing my work in the world. So the work that you do and especially I think the last 10 pounds is so much bigger than what it sounds like it's not just looking good and a bikini although that's a fun little side benefit. The work is so important.

Absolutely. One thing that I thought would be really fun to share is I actually have a tattoo. I know this might sound unrelated, but let me tell you.

Okay, I have a tattoo because actually a little bit of background on me. So your listeners can know like of course this person Brenda talking and like what is she know?

Because by the way, you'll see me now and you would never guess that I ever ever right like ever struggled with my way or with food and I did at one point I weighed almost 200 pounds and I struggled with my way for two decades.

And I mean, I'm talking like I would lose 30 to 50 pounds regain it. Like there are memories that I have of swearing off a certain thing throwing it in the trash can and then literally like yeah, I know it's you me too.

Yeah, like having flashbacks. Yeah, been there. So if you're listen, you know, you could see me and be like, well, she's never struggled trust me. I've struggled in this area of my life as it related to my way and my food.

I felt like a hamster on a hamster wheel kind of thing. But anyway, so yeah, I've lost the eight 80 pounds for me was 80 pounds. And now I feel like I just maintain with ease with joy with love. But somewhere along that journey broke I actually went with my sister and we went to go get tattoos.

And she got, you know, something on her arm, but I got the word love on my right foot like on that arch of my foot. And the reason for that because even in the midst of that like really figuring it out, I did decide everything that I do everything that I go and learn everything that I go and study or try.

It's going to be because I want to love myself more and it's going to be out of love. And I even I'm just like that. I'm very deliberate with all the things that I do that way, like I even put it the location of that tattoo on my foot because it's like every step, you know, the direction where I moved towards.

And because at that point, I had experience being almost 200 pounds, but I also I think this is an important part of the journey. And this is speaking to what you're saying that is like the work that is involved in not struggling with this. It's really is about the relationship with you.

But on the surface level, it can appear that it's about whether I'm going to be able or not. Right. Yes. So at that point, I had actually there was a point of my journey where I had lost all the way I wanted to lose and kind of briefly though. And I think that's because I hadn't done this work.

And I had lost all the way. And yet I feel as insecure as inadequate as ever. And so for me now in hindsight, I'm so thankful also for that experience because it was just this moment where I had to recognize. Oh, okay. So like losing the way alone without whatever else piece was missing. I was unsure at the time.

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