You know, so much of what we've been taught about how to deal with things that really hurt us,

about having this patience, this sabr, are not entirely true. I mean, yes, we should definitely

think well of a lot and wait through things and wade through the waters that are rough in times that are

difficult. But it was never

meant to be that we're just dying as martyrs. We're just suffering endlessly while other people

live well, sometimes at our expense as women. It was never meant to be that we are suffering and just keeping silent.

It was never meant to be that way.

And while being patience and bearing down is great,

sometimes taking an honest look inside ourselves,

inside our lives and our habits,

it can be so difficult.

But that's the only way we can free ourselves from this fire that lives within us, this

challenge that we have. In fact, many of us live our entire lives completely in chains.

Just because we're scared of making that next move. And so we continue to live. We hide,

not only from others, but even from ourselves. And we just need so much healing from these toxic

relationships, difficult circumstances, and yet we don't know how to make

the next move. And so today we're going to give you a little bit of light on how you can manage

the struggle, the difficulties, whether it's a trust issue with the spouse or some type of

harm that has come to you before,

where you're feeling like you're just trying to be patient, but it just feels so awful.

Let's talk about it. Let's go. We'll be a lot.

Assaam.

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