Ep. 34: Charm & Disarm
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 1 July 2016
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem.
In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money or are experiencing a recurring theme. You can grab the Unsent Letter Guide at baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads
In the third segment, she explains why even when someone can do something, it doesn't mean that they have to. This week's listener question is about what to do when you're single and your loved ones keep prying into your love life.
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| 0:00.0 | This week I talk about why somebody who relies on being charming can be an issue and why understanding your money story could change the way that you relate to money. |
| 0:16.0 | I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve |
| 0:21.8 | their emotional and relationship literacy. |
| 0:24.0 | Let's kick this off. |
| 0:28.0 | In episode 33 last week, I talked about personality versus character and how they're not the same thing and |
| 0:35.9 | it prompted some rather heated debate in the comments for the show notes about whether |
| 0:41.0 | all charming people are shady. |
| 0:43.8 | So in this first part of the show, |
| 0:45.7 | I want to delve into why someone being charming in the main |
| 0:49.5 | is likely going to result in issues in the future. Now what we all need to realize about |
| 0:56.6 | you know that that sort of trait of being charming or that quality of being |
| 1:00.9 | charming is that we are all capable of being charming at times. |
| 1:07.3 | So you know think of flirting, you know we're being charming if we're flirting with somebody, |
| 1:11.9 | you know if we're mixing with new people, we tend to try to come across while in those situations. |
| 1:17.0 | If we are going out of our way to make people feel at ease, |
| 1:20.0 | sometimes, yes, that's going to be just coming from a place of, you know, purely kindness and trying to be helpful. |
| 1:25.5 | But sometimes the way that we go about making people feel at ease might be with charm, you know, entertaining them, trying to be funny, being self-deprecating that type of thing |
| 1:34.3 | it can also be that we actually use charm as a way of trying to win people over so that we can get what we want |
| 1:40.5 | so you know when you think of for instance when you're a teenager and you want to, you know, get your parents to let you go to something, that you'll probably turn on the charm at that particular point because you want to get what you want. |
| 1:53.0 | Now, when it comes to people who you would regard them as being charming in the main, |
| 1:59.0 | like when you think of all the things that you can describe them as, all the qualities, characteristics that they have, and |
| 2:05.8 | charming is the one that you land on. That's because they have become very adept at knowing |
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