Ep. 325: Vanessa Mentor on Pausing, Sovereignty, and the Truth about Self-Care
Unperform with Tiffany Han (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)
Tiffany Han
4.7 • 525 Ratings
🗓️ 14 July 2020
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
This week, I'm talking all things self-care with Vanessa Mentor, coach, teacher and the creator of Living Unrestrained.
As an advocate of self-care, Vanessa helps people re-learn how to give without over-giving and love without people-pleasing so they can live the life they say they want.
In this episode, Vanessa and I tackle sanity and self-care, being fierce in attending to yourself and your needs, pausing and easing, how to reframe busyness into intentional choices, and what it truly means to be generous.
We also talk about how self-care is a radical act that's especially needed right now and flip a few things you might be thinking about taking care of yourself on their head!
Episode Quotes:
"Self-care is a set of learnable skills that starts with self-awareness."
"If you want to help somebody, get yourself together." - Wendy Palmer
"True self-care can never be selfish nor indulgent."
"By caring for ourselves, we increase our capacity."
"Self-care allows us to activate our sovereignty. Every day."
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome back to raise your hands say yes with life coach Tiffany Hahn. |
| 0:04.9 | This is a podcast that is all about teaching smart, ambitious women, how to raise their hands and say yes to all of those things they want to do, be and say without compromising their standards or their sanity. |
| 0:16.6 | For more information, go to Tiffanyhan.com and now on to the show. |
| 0:22.3 | Hey y'all, welcome back. |
| 0:23.8 | Thank you for being here. |
| 0:25.2 | I am so excited for you to hear this podcast episode. |
| 0:30.3 | This is a conversation that I was so excited to have and that honestly, we recorded it a few days ago and it is not left me |
| 0:39.1 | alone ever since so you are in for a treat i am interviewing this week vanessa mentor and |
| 0:45.1 | Vanessa is a self-care coach and a teacher and her work y'all completely flips the script on how to take care of yourself in a way that really questions |
| 1:02.6 | everything that you think about what that means, what that means to other people, if it means |
| 1:08.7 | you're selfish, how it contributes to the rest of the |
| 1:12.8 | world, all of it. And for those of y'all who have been around for a while, you know that one of the |
| 1:19.5 | things I've really, really been looking into over the years is my relationship with myself, |
| 1:24.5 | my relationship with self-care, kind of reframing and giving new perspective |
| 1:29.1 | and voice to how I show up for myself and what is possible when I do that and then also |
| 1:37.6 | then encouraging you to do the same thing. And Vanessa's work is really every time I see her |
| 1:43.5 | talk about anything, just every fiber of my being is in agreement. |
| 1:49.0 | And, you know, she shakes up my way of thinking so much and offers so much great, really grounding, really practical advice. |
| 1:58.8 | She talks about how to reframe busyness into intentional choices, |
| 2:02.7 | how to not continually defer your desires, yeah, uh-huh, and how to put in place structures that |
| 2:10.6 | fit your lifestyle. Because we've all got stuff to do in this world, right? And that is, that's, I think, one of the big undercurrents of this conversation and Vanessa's work. |
| 2:24.9 | So you are going to hear us talk about in here being fierce about tending to yourself and your needs. |
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