Ep. 310 How to Know If Someone Is Trustworthy (And Why Safe People Don't Demand Trust)
The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Natalie Lue
4.9 • 867 Ratings
🗓️ 24 April 2026
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Natalie answers a question that weighs on lots of us: "How do I know if I can trust people?" She breaks down what trust actually means, why ease can feel suspicious when you're used to struggle, the difference between healthy and unhealthy familiar, and why safe people don't feel entitled to your trust or brush off your discomfort.
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| 0:00.0 | I'm Natalie Liu, and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions where we break the patterns that break our hearts, relationships and bodies. |
| 0:09.5 | Since 2005, I've run one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggaggagreglaim.com. |
| 0:16.0 | I'm a boundaries and relationship coach and the author of five books including Mr. Unavailable and the |
| 0:21.5 | fallback girl and the joy of saying no. I help you reclaim yourself from emotional baggage by |
| 0:28.1 | letting go of emotional and availability, people pleasing and unhealthy relationships so you can live |
| 0:34.1 | in love with more love, care, trust and respect. |
| 0:40.1 | Hello, hello, hello. |
| 0:42.5 | How are you doing? |
| 0:48.3 | Recently, while sorting for a mountain of journals, notes and scribbles, |
| 0:52.5 | I came across advice I put together as a contribution for a young adult book, |
| 0:54.0 | where I answered the question, |
| 0:59.4 | how do I know if I can trust my friends and other people? While this is a question I've helped my teenage daughters and sometimes their friends explore, the truth is a lot of us are still figuring |
| 1:05.3 | this out well into adulthood. We received education in a host of subjects, of which we still use some of what |
| 1:12.6 | we learned, but there's plenty that's long forgotten and never used. Yet, we didn't get proper, |
| 1:20.6 | constructive lessons about what trust is. Hell, plenty of us managed to go all the way through our childhoods never here in terms |
| 1:30.3 | like self-care, boundaries, values, needs and feelings, or certainly not in positive ways. |
| 1:37.4 | And now here we are in adulthood, figuring out what seemed like the basics and giving ourselves |
| 1:42.8 | a hard time about what we don't know yet, finding certain things tricky, or feeling like we got things wrong before. Now, I've done an extensive episode on trust before. Episode 217, Trust is a Gamble, which of course I've linked to in the show notes at baggage reclaim.com. |
| 2:01.8 | uk, forward slash 310. |
| 2:05.3 | In this episode, I want to focus on the question I answered. |
| 2:09.1 | How do you know if you can trust your friends and other people? |
| 2:13.4 | And expand a little on my original answer. |
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