It's so hard because, I mean, I don't want to use the cop-out answer, but just like you have to be

spirit-led.

And if you're not spirit-led, then you just start making dumb decisions.

What's up, guys?

Welcome back to Five-Minute Fatherhood.

We had a really interesting conversation in Home Room, our online mentorship community,

about the conversation about men handling, postpartum mentorship community, about the conversation about manhandling,

postpartum, pregnancy, all the challenges.

We're in a whole month where we're talking about sexual intimacy in Home Room, and it's

really been a good conversation.

But one of the, there was a thread in this conversation I thought would be really good to

bring into the podcast, which was, you know, we talk a lot about how much we love kids, how much a blessing we see from having families and how much I think it's important for, for dads to embrace the possibility that they could be called to father a large family.

But I did want to throw out

like one like a little cautionary note on that conversation. And that is that it's so important

that when a dad, let's say they become very alive and excited about getting to coach a family,

lead a family team, build up a multi-generational

family, that you keep in mind that as you're pushing down this path, which could mean having

more kids and even more kids back to back, that you remember your first responsibility is to love

your wife. And that loving your wife comes before building your family.

And that means that if your excitement about building an epic family is completely coming

at the cost of your wife's physical health, of your wife's psychological health, of your

wife's spiritual health, it's your job to notice that

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