This week I talk about the middle ground between expecting partners to be perfect and taking on too much.

Plus, I give you the download on what I learned from six sessions of hypnotherapy.

I'm Natalie Lou, a writer based in Southeast London who is dedicated to helping people to improve their emotional and relationship literacy.

Let's kick this off.

So, first up in my welcome back show is how accepting do we need to be of our partners.

So one of the things that I hear from people is about,

do we have to go and find it this perfect person?

Like, isn't that just impossible?

And I don't know necessarily if some of us realize

that we can veer between extremes.

Like we are either at one end where we are very unaccepting, you know, intolerant we lack compassion we are like oh right

you've put one foot wrong then you're done you you aren't wearing the

right shoes you don't look the right way I don't like your tasting music whatever it is boom you're out but then we veered to the other end and we

You know consider ourselves to be super accepting what we're actually doing is we are

Going beyond really accepting a person and what we're actually doing is we are busting our boundaries, we're allowing them to bust our

boundaries and we're not really being our true selves in that situation and we're basically

giving ourselves up.

And when it comes to accepting people, accepting a partner in a relationship,

it's about finding the middle ground between those two. Accepting who someone is means that you stop wishing

that they were different to who they are or that you stop hoodwinking you about who they are.

It's also, as well, when we talk about accepting somebody and that includes accepting ourselves,

when we in particular talk about accepting someone else, it is not about, oh, well, because I accept you, I have to agree with

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