Ep #282: Stepping Out of the Rescuer Role

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 11 July 2024

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

#282: The rescuer mentality is a fascinating byproduct of codependency. It’s a habit many of us learned in childhood. For some of us, rescuing was a smart way to keep ourselves and our loved ones safe, but the truly loving choice in our relationships is to foster an interdependent way of living.

Tune in this week to learn why we fall into the rescue trap and how recognizing this tendency is key to healing emotional outsourcing habits. We’ll explore the critical differences between rescuing and supporting, practical tools that will help you shed the rescuer role, and how supporting others fosters interdependence.

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina.
0:15.0	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:22.0	Welcome, my love. Let's get started. so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:23.0	Welcome, my love.
0:24.0	Let's get started.
0:29.0	Hello, my love.
0:30.0	I hope this finds you doing so well.
0:35.0	Last night in Ancared my six-month program, we were talking all about roles and how there's so much role confusion in homes where cod dependent perfectionist and people-pleasing
0:46.2	habits, aka emotional outsourcing, are the norm.
0:50.2	And this role confusion happens because generally speaking everyone in the household
0:55.3	is lacking a secure connection with the three vital essential most crucial human needs, which are to feel safe, emotionally, physically, energetically,
1:09.8	to have a really profound and embodied sense of connection and belonging to know that you as an animal
1:18.0	you particularly you matter to at least one grown-up right the aces study adverse childhood
1:25.4	experiences study showed us this kids just need to feel like they really really
1:29.1	matter and can count on one person minimum minimum, yeah, and finally validation, right, value, worth. It's an extension of this
1:38.7	you matterness. And when we don't feel really secure in our connection to these three essential
1:46.3	human needs, well of course we start to doubt ourselves, we start to doubt our
1:51.6	safety writ large and we spend a lifetime until we learn to do it otherwise,
1:58.0	grasping for, searching for, trying desperately to connect outside of ourselves.
2:05.0	That's why I call it emotional outsourcing with people, places, and things that can help us to feel safety, belonging, and worth.
2:13.6	Problem is, most of those calls
2:15.9	needs to come from inside the house, right?
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