EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags
So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Idea to Launch Productions
4.8 • 592 Ratings
🗓️ 5 May 2025
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
Hey y'all, it's Carla! My birthday's coming up, and let's just say I've been in my feelings. In this episode I shared how I've been mourning parts of my younger self and wishing I could go back and change a few things. Dex reminded me that aging isn't just loss — it's also growth and new beginnings, and honestly, I needed to hear that.
We also unpacked a wild episode of Dear Future Wifey where a pastor's wife said she used to iron her man's clothes so he could go see his side chick. Yes, you read that right. She said it was her calling from God to support him — and while I respect her story, I had to come through with scripture because God did not call us to suffer through infidelity or abuse. Dex and I got into how the church sometimes pushes a "ride or die" message for women, and it's not always holy — sometimes it's just harmful.
Then we talked about the price of love — literally. A woman spent $10K on a dating coach and is now engaged. Dex thinks finding your person is priceless, but what do yall think?
We close with a heavy listener letter from someone stuck in a relationship that's emotionally draining and rooted in fear, not love. The message? Guilt isn't a reason to stay, and sometimes choosing yourself is the most loving thing you can do.
Real talk, spiritual checks, and birthday fears — this episode has it all.
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| 0:00.0 | I don't know what's going to happen next, but yeah, So What Now. |
| 0:09.8 | Hey y'all, we're back. |
| 0:11.5 | Thank you for coming back to So What Now. |
| 0:12.7 | I'm Carla. |
| 0:13.7 | That was so fast. |
| 0:15.1 | That was really fast. |
| 0:15.9 | Welcome back to another episode of the So What Now podcast. |
| 0:18.7 | Why do you sound like that? |
| 0:19.6 | You sound like a white girl when you do that. Can't help it. Yes, you can. You're just going to immediately kick it off with insults. My bad. Go find your husband. You just found out not even like a year ago and now you want to like lean into it. No. Okay. You're not, you're welcome back to another episode of the So Wet Now podcast. Yeah, hello. Thank you for coming back. Yes, we love you guys. I'm so glad we're here. Thank you for joining us for another week. Yes, for sure. A new month. They could have been out here. We're officially in May. Hey, it's my birthday today for this name in real time. It's May madness. It's May madness. |
| 0:55.8 | It's March Madness. |
| 0:57.4 | No, but it's May. We're calling it May, man. No. I was being cute. There's only one thing in May. And it's Cinco de Carlo. Cinco de Carlo. That's always celebrating if you're listening in real time, it's today. It's today. And how old are you? 38. Really? |
| 1:08.7 | 38. |
| 1:09.9 | Really? |
| 1:10.5 | You're only 38 for you? |
| 1:11.6 | Are you joking or not? |
| 1:13.1 | No. |
| 1:13.7 | 38. |
| 1:14.4 | Oh, wow. You're so young. But wait, weren't you 84? Yes. Oh, because you turned 41 this year. I will be 41 this year. Oh, because I'm like, we, I know, several months for now. No, no, yeah. several months from now. You're so young. Like, yeah, where's 41? We can't see it. |
| 1:30.3 | No, but you're young for real. You're only 38. I'm not that young. You have two more years. Like, |
| 1:35.2 | You're so good. |
| 1:36.7 | Yeah. |
| 1:36.9 | How are you feeling? |
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