I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello hello hello. How are you doing? You might be able to hear a bit of a sore throat from me.

Hopefully you won't hear too many sniffles. Anyway, I digress.

So a few episodes back, episode 270, I talked about knowing when to fold

on unhealthy relationships and

in talking with various people, you know, clients, readers,

listeners over the last while, it reminded me

about a specific aspect of this that people struggle with.

It's this.

When we acknowledge something that makes us uncomfortable about

something or someone or even if we're not entirely aware of what that is, we notice that we are uncomfortable or that we're feeling a certain way that something feels a bit awful that we're not interested or

that there isn't a connection or whatever it is that we make judgments about

ourselves we might say that we're being harsh, you know, that we're being judgmental.

We might say that we are being hasty.

We might say that actually this is us being hyper-vigilance. We might say that we are

difficult or that maybe we're

are picky or that we're being too sensitive,

whatever it might be.

And what's interesting is that when I talk to people who've made these judgments about themselves,

so in essence blocks themselves from being able to listen to themselves, they feel confused about when they should have listened

to themselves. So after calling themselves, whatever they called themselves,

and now weeks, months or even years have gone by and whatever it was proved to be, you know, an

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