This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina.

I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.

Welcome, my love. Let's get started. so you can live from your beautiful heart.

Welcome, my love.

Let's get started.

Hello, my love.

I hope this finds you doing so well. There are so many amazing things

about my romantic relationship that I am endlessly grateful for. The safety, the curiosity, the care, the growth, the support, the

encouragement, the fun, the deep and powerful love and co-regulation of our nervous systems,

and also the super deep nerd-treat.

While I have called myself a Buddhist light

for like the last decade plus,

my wife Billy is a for real vows taken to bed and

because she is exactly who she is, she's so friggin nerdy about it,

which is so attractive and she's constantly like

Buddhism has all these lists. I love a list. I think this episode has like five different lists

but she's often like rattling off about the paremetas and like it's just so fun and

amazing to have someone who's so expert in something I've been so interested in

for so long just constantly around. It is such a gift.

So recently she was talking about a term in Buddhism that parallels so much of what we tend to do in emotional outsourcing

aka cod dependent perfectionist and people-pleasing living.

And that term translates to idiot compassion.

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