I'm Elizabeth Reese.

I'm Marjorie Punit.

And this is Best to the Nest, the podcast that is all about creating strong, comfortable, beautiful nests that prepare us to fly.

And Marjorie, today we are talking about a term that's been around for a while,

but has gotten some new attention lately.

It's called, are you ready for it?

Do you want to do a drum roll?

Strategic incompetence.

We know what this is.

Also sometimes known as weaponized incompetence.

This went viral by a woman on TikTok who posted, she posted somewhere, a photo of the grocery

list that she made for her husband, which included basically like a map of the grocery store

in order for him to navigate the grocery store

and properly handle the task that she had assigned to him.

And so what happened was it goes viral, it goes all over the place.

USA Today writes an article about this idea of strategic incompetence and saying that this woman's grocery list is essentially

an example of that and that this is happening in households all across America, particularly

in heterosexual relationships. The Wall Street Journal wrote about this. There's tons of

conversation about this, but it was just brought to the forefront again recently. And I thought this is something that we really have to be talking about. And basically, if you're not familiar with what it means, it's the idea of, and this is again in a traditional heterosexual relationship,

where a man will essentially sort of pretend or tell himself

and tell everyone else in the family that he's incapable of doing something

so that the woman in the relationship takes over and just does it.

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