So a question we get all the time, all the time.

Every week.

Yeah, all three of us have gotten this question is about check-ins with your spouse.

So after betrayal has happened,

oftentimes couples will set up check-ins.

And check-ins don't help sometimes.

Sometimes they make things worse.

Sometimes they do make things better.

And so we would just want to address this

and talk about what is a healthy check-in, where do couples get hung up and where are problems

caused in checking in?

So did you guys do check-ins? This was a big this was a battleground for us.

Yeah, so we were doing the he didn't have an actual sponsor at the time when we were doing this check in with each other.

No. And he had a friend whom we love who was their pretend sponsors for each other.

However, they were not sponsors for each other. However, they were not sponsors for each other.

No. And not at all. It was like, hey, how's it going today? I had a crap day.

Yeah, me too, actually. Okay, so what else is up?

Like, it was complete rubbish.

It was not, yeah.

And so I already had issues with that, like that is not a sponsor,

so check in with me.

Right. And I wanted to build trust I

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