Ep #267: The False Protective Mechanism of Taking Things Personally

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 28 March 2024

⏱️ 44 minutes

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#267: Whether you find yourself moving through the world chronically offended, or know someone who does, taking things personally is super exhausting. Feeling criticized hurts, it keeps us out of presence, and it sows discord in all of our relationships. So why then do we do it? And how can we step out of this habit?

Join me this week to hear why you might be in the habit of taking things personally and how to stop. I’m showing you why taking things personally is a common survival tool for emotional outsourcers, how we unwittingly create drama when we take things personally, and remedies that will help you step out of this habit and build a more supportive, loving sense of self.

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina.
0:15.0	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:22.0	Welcome, my love. let's get started.
0:28.8	Hello, hello my love. I hope this finds you doing so well. I was coaching a client in Anckered my six-month
0:37.1	coaching program the other day and we were talking about taking things personally
0:42.3	and how this really young part of her, this inner child,
0:46.6	really takes things to heart and really sort of preemptively makes things about her that when she pulls back and
0:54.9	we're coaching and she can really get a little cognitive distance she can see those
0:59.8	things actually have like zero to do with her. But in her heart and in her
1:04.4	soma in her body she's reactive ahead of time just in case. And over these many
1:10.7	many many years of working with us, us emotional outsors, folks with
1:15.4	co-dependent perfectionist and people-pleasing thought habits, I've come to see just
1:19.8	how much we take things personally, and generally things that have absolutely 0.0
1:25.1	things to do with actual us. I get why we do the habit and I also see just how painful
1:31.7	it really really can be. So I recommended that that client
1:36.4	listen to this episode all about taking things personally and I thought hey why
1:41.9	should I only remind her if it it's up for her, maybe it's up for you.
1:45.7	Maybe this is something that's going on in your life. Maybe your tender, tender,
1:50.4	ravioli feelings are getting hurt left and right. Maybe you're on the other side of it and there's someone you love and care about who's constantly offended or always gets their feelings hurt and you want to understand them more.
2:03.7	So you can bring in more compassion, less judgment, more acceptance, more care and can be
2:09.9	well less annoyed.
2:18.1	Because before I really understood this it's interesting to like pull back with the you know 20-20 hindsight and realize that there's this whole period of time where I was doing the taking things personally, right?
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