This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine

expert and life coach Victoria Albina. I'll be full heart. Welcome my love let's get started.

Hello hello my love I hope this finds you doing so well it's the beginning of the year and while we're being inundated with

implorations to engage with New Year New You campaigns and all that resolutions

garbage I want to pause.

Back this train up, zoom out, like we do, to talk about something that might actually serve

you.

So this week I want to talk about values, especially within the context of emotional outsourcing.

My love's values are the compass points that guide our behavior, decisions, and align us with our true selves.

The ones that often get hidden away for smart self-protective reasons

when we're living in emotional outsourcing,

which if you're new here, welcome.

Emotional outsourcing is the term that I coined for codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing

thought habits and ways of being, because none of those words individually on their own really summed up my lived experience or that of my

thousands of clients and I wanted something that didn't have the old stigma and shame and just yuckiness of codependency or being a coddependent person.

I don't like the label.

So I came up with emotional outsourcing because that's what we do.

We chronically and habitually source our sense of safety,

validation, and worth from everyone and everything outside of ourselves. That's how I define

emotional outsourcing. So there's usually a lot of new people around here in January, so I wanted to make sure that we've got that across.

So, values, right, values. They are the deep-seated gut feeling, those core sensations and knowings that guide our every action and reaction,

reminding us to come back home to ourselves through the values that define us, like compassion, integrity, honesty. When I'm guided by my values, they're

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