I'm Natalie Lou and you're listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello how are you doing? Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you know that you absolutely

detest being in it.

You can't stand the pain, you can't stand the discomfort,

you don't want to engage with this person,

you don't want to be in a situation anymore.

And yet, the situation keeps coming back round. You feel stuck in this cycle with that person. You may

have tried to distance yourself and you'd be successful for a time and then you're back in it all over again. Well if so you're not alone. This is something

that so many of a struggle with and when we do we tend to feel baffled as to why this is, because we can see irrefutable reasons as to why we need to step away.

We can see, for instance instance that person did not treat me with love, care trust and

respect I absolutely need to be no contact so no contact being where we

temporarily or permanently distance ourselves after a breakup.

And the reason why we would do no contact is because we didn't have healthy boundaries, for instance, in the relationship or post-breakup and it's

becoming clear that if we continue to engage we are not going to be able to take care of ourselves

that we're going to be stuck in an unhealthy cycle.

And so go in no contact gives us the space to grieve the loss of the relationship, to take care

of ourselves, and to move forward with love, trust and respect.

It puts boundaries in place that say,

hey, our relationship has come to an end.

And now we need to establish new boundaries that reflect this

so that we are both able to move forward. And yet I hear from so many

people and believe me I was there myself where we just cannot seem to stay no contact.

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