This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today's caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to 'fix' his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself.

 

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A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we've got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they're going to get rejected and doesn't feel safe. It holds us back and that's why we often feel like we're taking one step forward and one step back.

 

And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don't call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they're doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them.

 

In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn't want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift.

 

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting?
• Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family?
• Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way?
• Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development?

 

Odysseus's Question:

Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career.

 

Odysseus's Key Insights and Ahas:

• He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn't put forth much effort.
• He is a personal growth junkie.
• He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends.
• He battles with his limiting beliefs.
• He has a pattern of low self-worth.
• He doesn't feel worthy of having a good relationship.
• He didn't feel wanted by his brothers as a child.
• He was bullied when he was young.
• He has Crohn's disease.
• He has a distant connection with his father.
• His parents didn't know how to parent his energy.
• He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through.
• He feels like his time is running out.

 

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself.
• He needs to search inside for who he really is.
• He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting.
• He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says.
• He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments.
• He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

 

Takeaways:

• Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation.
• Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself.
• Celebrate your progress even if it's just a small step in the direction you want to go.
• Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

 

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