I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello.

How are you doing?

Hands up if you identify with feelings if you have to be the strong one or the supportive one.

Well, if you do, then what I have come to realize through my own experiences is that you don't realize actually how reliant you are on being, you know, strong or supportive

until you acknowledge your discomfort and resistance around expressing your need for help and support.

When you find yourself in situations where you're not feeling you know your usual self

Where you need space help support to not be wedged into your typical role where you need something. It's hard to admit that you're

struggling. It's hard to admit whatever it is that you need even when it's not necessarily that you're struggling per se

But it's become apparent to you that you could do with not trying to carry the world on your shoulders or always being

the giver this also brings up resistance when your role is to be the strong or supportive one in your interpersonal

relationships you have to build up the courage to ask for help and support. And as a part of you that worries about how they're going to react to you needing them. You might worry about disappointing them, you know, letting them down because you can't be your typical

self, you know, strong and supportive. And there may be anxiety and discomfort about dropping the facade that you are Teflon coated or that you're self-sufficient.

But feeling and thinking and behaving as if you always have to be

the strong or supportive one indicates where you're in a pattern that will require vulnerability and

self honesty to break out of it for more intimate relationships, but also for the

benefit of your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.

When you resist expressing your need for help or support,

there's often a tendency to drop hints, to hope and pray that someone

will read your mind or see through the carefully constructed facade. In some instances to you it feels like oh my gosh like it must be like super obvious that I'm struggling. You know it's almost like, you know, that kind of constipated look like, oh my gosh, like somebody please like notice me. So to you, it feels like that, but actually from the ad side, it might not necessarily look like that at all.

Even though you're the go-to helper, giver, fixer for others,

you bulk at the vulnerability of letting people in and allowing them to do things for you when

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