Ep #240: Overexplaining

Feminist Wellness

Béa Victoria Albina

Lifecoaching, Mental Health, Holistic, Feminist, Self-improvement, Fatigue, Alternative Health, Feelingstuckinlife, Spirituality, Healthygut, Health & Fitness, Mindbodyconnection, Guthealth, Connectionsbetweenthoughtsandhealth, Education, Ibs, Gutmicrobiome, Feminism

4.9 • 988 Ratings

🗓️ 21 September 2023

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

#240: Offering unnecessarily exhaustive explanations is a very smart coping mechanism we develop, usually in childhood. However, while overexplaining can provide short-term relief, it also reinforces the very emotional outsourcing cycles we’re trying to escape.

Join me today to discover the common origin stories that lead to the habit of overexplaining, how it affects our nervous system, and what we can do to start breaking free from this cycle. I’m sharing some of the science behind why we feel the need to overexplain, the power of nurturing self-compassion in this work, and my favorite ways for practicing more concise, direct communication.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://victoriaalbina.com/240

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0:00.0	This is feminist wellness and I'm your host nurse practitioner functional medicine expert and life coach Victoria Albina.
0:15.0	I'll show you how to get unstuck, drop the anxiety, perfectionism and codependency so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:22.0	Welcome, my love. Let's get started. so you can live from your beautiful heart.
0:23.0	Welcome, my love.
0:24.0	Let's get started.
0:29.0	Hello, my love.
0:30.0	I hope this finds you doing so well.
0:35.0	This week we're going to play a game called,
0:38.0	let's see if you can guess today's topic.
0:40.0	And I'm gonna bet that the process is going to be pretty darned cringy for many of us as we see ourselves in the following statements.
0:52.4	So let's start with the following statements.
0:52.8	So let's start with the work context.
0:54.8	Hey, I finished that report you asked for.
0:56.8	I know I had a bit of a delay because my computer was acting up and then I had to do
1:00.5	these other tasks during lunch and then I got all caught up with another project I didn't anticipate and then I was almost done when Angela, you know Angela, she sits behind me, her dog died and so she like got this phone call and she was really disturbed and like really upset I mean obviously
1:14.3	her dog died and I like talked to her about it a bunch but like anyway so I hope it's okay that I'm just
1:18.9	now getting it to you I really tried my best and I'm sorry if it's not up to your expectations, I'm sure it's
1:24.9	like nowhere near good enough, but like, I really put a lot of myself into it and worked really
1:30.2	hard on it. I stayed late several nights. Anyway, just let me know if you like totally hate it and want me to rewrite it.
1:36.5	Okay, that one was like extra extra. We're starting extra extra folks.
1:42.2	Example two. Hey I thought maybe we could hang out this weekend if that works for you.
1:48.0	I mean I know you're probably busy and you probably have other plans I totally
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