We're fairly lax about things that feel just like differences.

What's up, guys, Jeff and Jeremy here, another episode of Five Minute Fatherhood.

This is a question today from Jordan in one of our communities.

And he said, how do you talk with family members about how you might not necessarily want them to watch your kids?

Because of some reason like parenting style that you don't agree with. Or should you just let them watch them and expose them to watch your kids because of some reason like parenting style that you

don't agree with or should you just let them watch them and expose them to different ways of

parenting super good question and really practical where the rubber meets the throat i think a lot of

people everyone at some level deals with this uh jeremy has a really cool paradigm that's really

helpful i know for me and alissa we haven't wrestled with that or have a ton of experience

both sides of our family watch our kids uh kids. They love the kids and are great and super respectful to us. And that's so, and I'll talk from that side of like, because both of our sides, I think, do this well. This is one thing you do want to kind of, I don't know if you to say apply pressure, but it is important, I think, to be okay with the messiness of letting it be a

teaching music. apply pressure, but it is important, I think, to be okay with the messiness of letting it be a

teaching moment to trying to let the parents understand that, like, hey, we are kind of the

authority over our kids in the way of like, hey, can they eat, you know, we try to have

them eat this or do this or whatever. And then having them respect that. I mean, I do think it's

totally appropriate to ask the generation above you to respect the general values you've put on your family and your kids and them try to mimic that as best as possible, if that makes sense. With also, but if you're like a type A personality, then maybe that's the opposite. And you need to let some stuff slide. So like for us, like we, in a way we've wrestled with this. And this isn't even just like

parents, but this is just like anyone who watches our kids. Our thing is like we'll tell them like, hey, you know, they like to eat this and do this and do that. But we also don't want it to be like the micromanaging family like when we're gone. So in general with stuff that doesn't really

matter, like I don't think food matters for one night, right, unless it's obviously a dietary

restriction. So we just say like, I don't think food matters for one night, right, unless it's obviously a dietary restriction. So we just say, like, we don't care. Like, yeah, we feed them like this back home, but we don't care. Like, if you want to feed them that and that, like, so there's some things I do think you have to let slide. And I purposely even tell people that because I think it's a little bit of an olive branch when kids are being, you know what I mean? I'm just like, we don't care. Like, we trust you. Like, just feed them whatever you want.

You know what I mean? I'm just like, we don't care. Like, we trust you. Like, just feed them whatever you want.

You know what I mean? Um, you know, and probably, we'd probably be in right now, it's like move movies. Like there's only kid movies or kid movies. But obviously when we're older, we'll probably set some boundaries with that stuff. Like you kind of just, it's all, it's all case by case and it's all

that stuff. But I do think there's some stuff. You should let slide, right? And I do think there's

things that it's okay to ask them to respect and honor. So that's, it's really a wisdom issue and a sensitivity issue and a little tip for tap. But yeah, I like your paradigm. Jeremy, how would you guys talk about this? Yeah, so you guys understand that when you're trying to be more intentional to build a family team, Sometimes people get a lot more worried about exposing

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