ask them every month or two, like, can we go out to coffee? I got some specific questions. Can I pick your brain? I'm really, like, excited about this or that. What's up, guys, Jeff and Jeremy here. Another episode of Five Minute Fatherhood. Fun question today again from Brian, from our Facebook community, Five Minute Fatherhood. If you're not on there, you need to be on there, it's a blast. We just had a really fun discussion on college. That was a blast. And I love that stuff. I eat it up. It's really life-giving to me. And so thank you for anyone in the group who contributes. Really fun and sharpening and edifying for me and Jeremy. Brian asked, one topic that I'd love to here expounded on as manly mentors. For someone like myself who grew up fatherless,

this would be advice about finding mentors. For someone like myself who grew up

fatherless, this would be advice about finding mentors. So kind of like, how do you find mentors?

Or having multiple mentors, what a mentor relationship can look like. I also think advice about

finding mentors for our children, because ideally our children will have multiple paternal

figures to look up to. Really good question.

We'll kind of maybe tackle this from a lot of angles and it's hard to answer in five minutes. I know Jeremy has some really good stuff specifically on kind of how to engage your kids with mentors and kind of like expose them to different leaders, yourself, et cetera. But I'll even talk just from, yeah, mine and Jeremy's relationship, I think one thing that's been prominent for, you know, us building such a strong relationship over seven, eight years an hour or something like that is, is the best way I can say is like, just don't make it weird and think about this really specific action items and all these different things. I think, because the first mistake a lot of young people do is they, I think, engage with like too much of like a game plan, if that makes sense.

Like it's got to be this, that, and like let's, you know, and I want to kind of like they're almost trying to bring the finish line to the starting point. And then it just overwhelms everyone. It's too much. The best, literally this is all I can say. The best thing to do is just like ask the person you're interested in learning from a bunch of questions.

And that could be at a different settings.

You can ask them to coffee.

You can ask them to dance. I can say. The best thing to do is just like ask the person you're interested in learning from

a bunch of questions. And that could be at a different settings. You can ask them to coffee. You can ask them to dinner. Maybe you're already in a setting where you're just over at their house at dinners a lot or in there or in the front yard or whatever it is. Just like kind of just ask a bunch of questions. And I feel like that's how our relationship started in more of the mentoring ways. I just was always like, oh, tell me more about this. Tell me more about this. Tell me more about this.

I won't even say it was like, hey, be my mentor. And then all of a sudden later, was always like, oh, tell me more about this. Tell me more about this.

Tell me more about this. I won't even say it was like, hey, be my mentor. And then all of a sudden

later, it was like, oh, it's kind of shaped up to be like that where we just would call each other. I'd ask questions and I'd email them and stuff like that. So I just ask questions and it tends to kind of just go on its own. And so I think that's the biggest one is just be very curious.

Ask a lot of questions. Put

yourself in settings where you're kind of taking the brunt of like the initiation, if that makes

sense. And so that's one thing I would say. What would you say, Jeremy? Yeah, I totally agree with that.

I think that oftentimes the first step into this is never to go to somebody and say, will you be my

mentor? That's very intimidating

for most guys. Unless there's a, they have a program that they've got set up and they've got like,

they've talked about it very openly. That feels like a ton of pressure that you're trying to take

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