You want to sit down as a family team or with your spouse create a system for whatever part of the house is causing this sort of chaos.

What's up guys? Welcome to another five-minute fatherhood. So I want to talk to you guys about a concept, especially as your kids are getting older, that you're going to face and that there's a very particular way that you need to address it.

And that is this idea of the tragedy of the commons.

I don't know if you guys know about this idea.

This is the way it's talked about sort of sociologically, but it's something that you see all the time.

And that is that if no one owns it, then we all just trash it.

If you went to college, probably your experience of there was like literally a common room.

I know that in our dorm there was one of these common rooms that nobody was really responsible for cleaning and it just got destroyed.

And so that's what happens oftentimes when nobody feels ownership.

Now, as your family grows and your kids get older,

what starts to happen is that all the common spaces in the house start to fall victim to

this idea. People just start leaving plates out in the kitchen, kids just leaving toys all over

the house. Nobody really owns any spaces. And so you just watch things devolved. Oftentimes the person in the family,

sometimes it's the mother or the father, usually not one of the kids that's most frustrated by the

lack of cleanliness or all the clutter will end up doing 90% of the work. And as you get more

and more kids and they get more and more sloppy this

problem just devolves into a nightmare so how do you handle this and so the way that

you you handle the tragedy of the commons is you must create a system of

accountability and there's lots of ways to do this we're not going to give you

just one way we there's a lot we we share in the 31 Creative Ways book a bunch

of the systems we

have. A couple examples for things that we do. The kitchen is often the best place to go to kind

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