I'm Natalie Lou in your listening to the baggage reclaim sessions.

Hello hello. How are you doing?

When you're feeling down, challenged or frustrated about something,

it's not uncommon to want to talk about it with someone.

A problem shared is a problem halved and all that jazz.

And this can be oh so true when it's with the right person.

Loneliness is what we experience when we stop sharing our innermost feelings and thoughts with ourselves as well as loved ones.

If we keep ourselves at a distance, whether it's hiding who we really are or not sharing what ails us, it can become isolating

become isolating.

We experience emotional disconnection

because we are cut off from those around us.

Sometimes the very act of speaking up, of admitting

what's going on or just unburdening ourselves does a lot of the legwork. We take it out of our head and feel plugged back into connection.

We can start to see a way through, or at least be more self-compassionate and accept or be open to accepting help or support.

But when we share with someone who, for instance, being trust wherever you're empathetic isn't really

their strong suit, a problem shared becomes a problem multiplied.

And when people don't treat our struggles, our vulnerability, with a modicum of empathy, compassion, patience, decency, something, sometimes instead choosing to go on the attack or just simply

add to our problems, we feel wounded and confused.

It seems unfair and we start to wonder what the hell did I do to warrant this kind of treatment

to warrant this response from them and so in this episode I want to explain why we need to be

careful who we tell our problems too. Now I want to preface this by saying that I am not in any way suggesting that you don't talk

about your problems at all. What I am saying is that you need to practice discernment about who you share with so that you have the freedom

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