You are listening to the Life Coach School Podcast with Brook Castillo episode number 211.

Welcome to the Life Coach School Podcast, where it's all about real clients, real problems, and real coaching.

And now your host, Master Coach Instructor, Brook Castillo.

Well, hello there, my friends. I wanted to create a podcast for you this week titled Villain Compassion.

And it's a concept that I use with a lot of my students who've been with me for a long time.

It's one of those kind of more advanced concepts that once you get to know me is a little easier to accept.

And it's a hard concept in the beginning of my work. So here's my philosophy.

I feel like y'all have been with me for 211 episodes.

If this is your very first podcast that you've listened to from me, this might be not a great idea,

because this is one of my more advanced concepts, but welcome and try it on and see what you think.

So one of the things that I live my life by is the idea that I love the humans.

And I love all of our humanness. And we're on a range, right?

We are on this scale of goodness to badness in terms of our morality and our judgment.

There's the dark side and the light side. And so much of the story of the human experience is based on good and bad.

And what most of my life and my clients life has been focused on is trying to figure out what side we're on.

Right? Are we on the good side of the bad side? And most of my life I've thought I was on the bad side.

I had so much self-loathing and kind of incriminating myself in my own life that I always wanted to do.

But I always saw myself as the bad one, the one that wasn't good enough.

And I went from being the bad one in my life to then also being the victim and playing out that villain and victim role that were taught so often in our stories and taught so often in the lessons as we're growing up.

And as I've done this work on myself and I've embraced the part of the world that isn't good, quote unquote,

and the part of the world that is good, I have come to understand that this human spectrum of good and badness and judgment there does not serve us very well.

And because the problem with it is that we're always trying to locate and vilify the villains.

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